Would you please stop asking me when I will get married. Please?!
I still can’t comprehend why people ask me this question over and over again.
Will it make any difference if I get married? Will it affect you in any way, directly or indirectly? Will you get ANY benefits from it? NO, right?!
What makes it even worst is that, when some people ask me whether or not I have a boyfriend (and I say no, for obvious reasons), they stare at me as if I’m not supposed to be single. As if I have passed the deadline for getting a boyfriend. As if I’m not capable of falling in love. As if being single is a curse. And a lot more as ifs that I can’t even write here.
Don’t get me wrong. I appreciate your concern. The fact that I may stay single for the rest of my life. The fact that nobody would be interested in me after I turn 30. The fact that nobody would have a second glance at a very independent woman.
But oooh pleeease. Get over it. It’s not the end of the world. Life is not only about having a boyfriend or getting married. I still have countless dreams to catch, numerous places to visit, many problems to solve, a lot of things to choose, and many things to worry about. The time will eventually come. Today. Tomorrow. The day after tomorrow. Next month. Next year. Or even in 5 years time. It’s not me — nor you — to decide.
I know that some of you just want to make jokes or have a meaningless conversation to break the ice, BUT can you ask something else? There are tonnes of questions that you can ask other than my status. Right?
Are you running out of ideas? Well. Perhaps you can ask me about my day. My passion. The most embarrassing thing I did. The exciting places I’ve been to. My plans for the future. My views on Egyptian Revolution. My travel plans.
Uh. Oh. There are just too many things that you can ask me about. If you don’t want to ask, just don’t ask anything. Simple, right?
And oh! Don’t worry, I will let you know when I have plans to get married. You might not be invited, but I’ll let you know. And you can see for yourself, then, if you witness any changes in your life when I tell you that.
Don’t worry. This letter is not meant to attack those people around me who have been asking me these questions. I have no hard feelings for you and I don’t hate you for that! Love you all! 🙂
But this is meant to voice my sarcastic opinion. This is my voice and the voice of other women who still choose to pursue their dreams and to search for the love of their life. As much as we respect the choice of those women who decide to get married early, we expect others to respect our choice too! Every one of us, each one of us, walk our life in different ways and take different paths. Not all of them will get married by 25. Not all of them will find their loved ones by 30. We are not the kind of woman who would submit to any men we meet. We have the right to choose. We have the right to filter those who come into our life. We wait, while we enjoy our life.
This is our choice. This is our life. No one has the right to dictate how it should be run. Peace! 🙂